Craig Toonder: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist MFC#42605

Through a variety of psychotherapeutic modalities, I help couples recognize how they get stuck in ineffective communication patterns that perpetuate negative interactions and prevent them from resolving their differences. Once couples gain this understanding of why their communication fails, I help them gain the awareness and skills to de-escalate these patterns and learn to communicate with greater empathy and understanding.  This includes developing a greater understanding for one’s partner, as well as, a deeper understanding of one’s self.

Additionally, research has shown that successful couples do not fight less than stressed couples. Qualities such as friendship, fondness, admiration, dependability, accessibility, shared vision, and trust lie at the heart of every successful relationship. The more a couple cultivates these qualities, the better they become and weathering the storms in life and in their relationship. I help couples recognize what their strengths in their relationship and what area they need improvement in.

While my focus is couples therapy, I work with individuals as well. Additionally, I have studied the psychological and physiological affects of trauma on people who have been in car accidents. I offer a unique style of psychotherapy that focuses on teaching clients how to “recalibrating” their nervous system , removing the effects of the trauma.  For more information on accident trauma, please visit my Accident Trauma page.

I graduated from John F. Kennedy University with a master’s degree in clinical psychology. At John F. Kennedy, I specialized in somatic (mind-body) psychology. I have since trained and assisted in several post-graduate programs in somatic psychotherapy. This allows me to work with clients by addressing the mental, emotional and physical aspects of their struggles and dreams.

For your convenience, you may download several of my office forms from the Appointments page of this website. I have also provided maps, directions, parking advise, and photographs of my office on my Location page.

If you have any questions about my approach, or how I work, please feel free to contact me by phone at 510 499-7137 or e-mail at ctoondermft [at] gmail.com.

Thank you,
Craig Toonder, MFT

 

Amanda Dluzak, Marriage and Family Therapy Intern #84074

Couples have arguments, but if you and your partner find that you are arguing too much, you are probably dealing with a hidden pattern within your relationship. I can help you see beneath the topics of your fights. Guiding you each to see those patterns can increase empathy in your relationship. If you want to revive tenderness, increase trust, and improve communication, therapy can help.

I work with many different relationship constellations in addition to pairs. Relationship therapy also benefits those moving in together, those preparing for marriage, or those who choose to live apart.

Individuals seek out therapy to grieve, for support, to begin to put the pieces back together. You may be adjusting to a life transition or the death of a loved one. Maybe you would like to find ways to manage stress, anxiety, or trauma triggers. You may simply want to know yourself better– to begin to understand how you got where you are today. If you want to see change in your life, therapy can help.

I received my Master’s Degree in Somatic Counseling Psychology from John F. Kennedy University. I have completed additional trainings in Somatic Resourcing, Somatic Couples Counseling, and the Gottman Method. I find Emotionally Focused Therapy to be a useful resource when working with couples. With a clinical background in bodywork and craniosacral therapy and a Bachelor’s in Creative Writing, I am drawn to the connection of body and mind.

In addition to couples work, I specialize in helping clients struggling with pregnancy-loss. For more information on this services please visit:  www.pregnancylosstherapy.com.

I am currently accepting new clients. If you are ready to begin to work in therapy, please don’t hesitate to contact me on my confidential voice mail at 510-788-0424.